An Introvert's Guide to Eddie's

So you’re an introvert... that’s not a bad thing.

 

Introversion has some awesome perks. Cancelled plans seldom leave you feeling blue, and you can keep yourself entertained for hours on end without much help. In fact, if a pandemic sweeps the globe, you and your socially reclusive ways may literally help to save lives.

 

Unfortunately it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. Your need for small social groups can sometimes come off as being anti-social.  With all the people you meet at the seemingly endless list of social events, the first few weeks of college life can be especially overwhelming and disorienting. You might also find yourself feeling a little lonely as you get used to your new college environment.

 

Not to worry! Here’s a list of realistic steps you can take to help you settle into your new home at Eddie’s, and to make the most out of your time at Cambridge.

 

Pick what is doable.


The beginning of the year is chock-full of social events, and that might have you feeling overwhelmed. If so, don’t feel obligated to go every single event. Pick a few that seem interesting and manageable. Then gather up your courage and talk to people there!

 

Take care of yourself.

Cambridge is extremely exercise friendly. Take a walk along the river or set out to find a new Dinky Door™. Between all the historic landmarks, museums, and scenery, there are plenty of reasons to be outside. (Hot tip: If you putz around outside long enough an extrovert will inevitably find and adopt you!)

 

It’s important to keep yourself well nourished, but meal times can be distressing. Tap into that inner courage reserve again and introduce yourself to someone (or multiple someones if you’re up to that) at the dining hall.

Meals are a powerful way to bond with other people. If you want to fancy it up a notch, go to formal dinners if/when you can. There will be good food, and delightful company. Plus, wearing your gown will make you feel really important.

Do what you love.

Find time to cultivate and sustain extra-curricular interests, whether they be solitary or group activities. It’s important to take time out to do something that brings you joy.

Find clubs and societies that interest you. It’s easier to connect with people if you already share a base interest with them.

 

When your social batteries are fully charged and you’re ready to talk to people, just head on over to the college CR. Chances are, a friendly face, a stimulating conversation, and sometimes tea and snacks await you.

Ask for help when you need it.

All the resources you could possibly need to help you succeed are within your reach. You’re surrounded by kind, intelligent people who want to see you do well. Don’t be afraid to reach out to them.

 

Finally, don’t compare your experiences to the ones you perceive other people to be having. Introverts take a while to get comfortable with new people. It can be disheartening to see other people form new friendships at lightning speed while you’re struggling to form connections. You will find deep, fulfilling friendships too– it will just take you a little longer. Show yourself some patience and kindness.

Go forth and conquer!

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